Gender reveals have been the hottest craze in the baby industry for quite a while now. Some being quite elaborate, with full on white table cloth set ups with beautiful floral arrangements (I thought it was a baby or bridal shower!), or with lights and smoke and animals marching in a parade. Okay… maybe I haven’t seen animals but I have seen the smoke and lights... I think. While I think it is wonderful to share in your excitement with family and friends, I can’t help but wonder if it’s all a bit too much? For me… that is. I totally support my family and friends who want to have a gender reveal party. Heck, I wouldn’t be writing this post if I wasn’t considering it. As I work through my emotions and logic of how I feel about this topic, I find myself swaying like a pendulum from one side to another on whether I personally want to have one. The sociologist in me is saying “it’s not even being called the proper title”… as in it should be called a “sex reveal” because gender is a social construct and fluid, where sex is your DNA. I’ll stop there with the smarty pants school stuff though because I don’t really care nor am I bothered by the fact that it is called a “gender reveal”. My hubby isn’t a huge fan of attention, the kind of guy that really doesn’t even like celebrating his birthday. I, on the other hand, love celebrating my birthday and don’t mind the attention. I mean I was 1 of 4 children growing up, so when I got the opportunity for complete and total attention on me, I took it. Hahaha!!
I decided to compile a list of reasons to have and not to have a gender reveal party. Here it is:
Reasons to have a reveal
- Include close family and friends in the development of the newest family member.
- Create even more excitement about the baby.
- To celebrate a milestone marker in our pregnancy (much like first time you feel baby kick… no party for that!).
- An excuse for a get together :) (my brother-in-law says we celebrate sneezes in our family).
Reasons to NOT have a reveal
- Privacy. Not everyone needs to know every detail of our lives (especially if it goes on social media).
- Other peoples opinions don’t matter, having a party invites those opinions.
- More cost/expense/time to us and family/friends that attend.
- Just an excuse for a get together.
While taking into consideration my hubby’s feelings about a reveal and actually thinking about what I want or what I would get out of having a reveal… I came to a revelation and arrived at my final decision.
The reveal is not for me.
The reveal is for our friends and family who are excited for us and the addition of this little miracle into our world. I do not care, of course I have my preferences, whether my baby is a he or she. All I hope and pray for is a healthy and happy baby. I do not think we are going to have a traditional gender reveal party with the balloons out of a box, or colored smoke, or a baseball being smashed to infinity. I’d much rather surprise my family and friends in a more intimate, cute, and creative way with the sex of our baby-to-be. Don’t worry I won’t just blurt it out. It’ll still be cute and stylish. :)